Entitlement

3 min readAug 17, 2018

A narcissist is entitled to whatever they want, whenever they want it. They believe that the world revolves around them and their whims and caprices.

Narcissists are completely self-absorbed

Narcissists are completely and utterly self-absorbed, only their wants and needs matter.

There are no boundaries they wouldn’t cross, they have no consideration for anyone else’s feelings or needs.

……. and superior

They believe that they are superior, special and more important than everyone else and deserve special treatment.

Everyone else is on the planet merely to serve their whims and caprices.

They expect you to serve them

Being the child of a narcissist means that they expect you to serve them for the rest of their life.

Your relationships with a partner, children, friends, work colleagues, bosses or acquaintances will not matter to a narcissistic parent.

They expect to be your number one priority

Coming from a narcissistic family, the expectation is that the narcissist is the one and only.

There is no room for anyone else.

The family falls into the toxic pattern of accommodating only the abuser and ensuring that they are happy at all times to the entire compromise of the rest of the family.

… and get worse as they age

As a narcissist ages, their sense of entitlement increases, as their body weakens and their health fails.

This is the time when they will assume that their children will look after them no matter the cost to their physical/mental health or your financial position.

The narcissistic rage

Narcissist’s rage when other people question their entitlement.

This can range from the silent treatment for an extended period, right up to shouting and violence.

Even when the punishment ends, and life seems to get back to normal (usually after they’ve got their way), it doesn’t end. A narcissist knows exactly how to bear a grudge and they will do this for the rest of their lives.

….is an adult temper tantrum

Whilst I don’t want to demean the horror of experiencing narcissistic rage, the truth is that it is nothing more than an adult temper tantrum.

The narcissist does not understand why you do not meet their demands, this is what they raised you for. They simply can not understand why you wouldn’t do as they wish.

People are there to serve the narcissist

To a narcissist people are tools.

They serve a purpose for them.

It could be as simple as a boost to their image of being with someone that they value in some way, perhaps because of their wealth or intelligence.

Or it could be that they hope to benefit from other’s experience, education or skills.

Once they establish that you serve no purpose their behaviour will be cold, rude and dismissive, you don’t serve their needs so they are not interested in you. Of course, this could change in the future if they realise there is some way that you can serve them.

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